Ruminating, Transforming, & Romanticizing








Why then do my thoughts meander back to The Cave? Having my own place for the first time in my life was important to me. I took a little cracker box apartment and turned it into a nifty little nest. With that came a sense of accomplishment. While there, I wasn't responsible for anyone but me (and later, Aslan). It was nice not to have any demands on my time. Of course, I spent that time trying to figure everything out; what went wrong, how to fix it, and whether or not I even wanted to fix it. Believe me when I say this: when I moved out on July 28th, it was my intention to never go back. Strangely, as time marched along at its own pace, I found myself wanting to consider other people. I wanted outside responsibilities. I missed people. Very few ever really set foot in the apartment. Pat was there once. Julie, Tony, Beth, and a few others also occupy the "once" list. Shannon was a fairly regular visitor. Andy was there the most. However, with the exception of one time, he never came without an invitation. My parents never visited me there. In fact, I saw them all of 3 times in 5 months, and always at their house. One time I mentioned the possibility of Mom & Dad visiting me and my mother said, "No!" I'm working on getting over that hurt.
Still, when I left the apartment for the last time I paused at the door with an unexplainable reluctance. Giving up the only thing that had ever truly been mine and mine alone was difficult! I looked around the empty living/dining/kitchen area and sighed deeply. That's right - I was standing in the door on December 21st romanticizing the past 5 months. Then the thought struck: while I experienced content in some ways when living there, I also spent a lot of time crying. Worse, I cried alone. Totally and completely alone. During those times, I felt desolate and hopeless. What a horrible way to exist!
Oh--not that I walked away from my solitary existence completely. That is evident in the den...and in one practice I carried home with me: time spent loving on Aslan upon my return from work each day. He waits for me, sitting on the bed watching me change out of my work clothes. Once I stretch out beside him, an extended time of petting and cuddling take place to the tune of his purr. What a great way to get rid of the stresses of the day!
Truth be told, making certain sacrifices are so worth it! Sure, I have moved back into the old responsibilities. The worries that haunted me before and during the time I had a different address are still there - but now are shared rather than being dealt with alone. It is nice to be needed and wanted. It is nice to have a reason to get up in the morning besides a hungry cat and a demanding boss that makes me crazy.


1 Comments:
I can appreciate how you felt about your apartment. Until we moved into this home, I have never had "my" own room in my adult life! I have always shared a bedroom with my hubby, and every other space was taken. The retreat room is mine. It is so nice to be able to just go in there and shut the door sometimes!
I fear that my "ME" time has come at the expense of spending time with my family...but it seems when I try to reconnect with them, we're all doing our own little things. I intend to work harder on this, this year, as we have all gotten into the bad habit of being so into our own thing that we aren't connecting too much. Some of this is my fault, but not all of it.
Still, it does feel nice to have a space that's mine. I can surf on the computer, practice my music, or get all alone with God and pray & study. A computer, desk, and chair, and a door to slam. What more could a woman want? *S*
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